By Aurelia Mbokazi-Kashe
In over twenty years of driving, I have learned that the road is not always a peaceful place. Whether it is a taxi forcing its way into your lane, someone tailgating you with impatience, or a motorist flashing their lights for you to move over, there is no shortage of daily provocation. I have been given a finger or flipped more times than I care to remember by fellow drivers. When this happens, I just laugh because I find it hilarious that a stranger is so emotionally vested in me to the point of showing their ‘colourful’ side. However, one lesson stands out: road rage is never worth it.
It is tempting to react. To suddenly hit your brakes at someone who is tailgating you. To shout back. To flip them and prove a point. But in doing so, you risk turning a frustrating moment into a dangerous one. Road rage never ends well. It escalates quickly and can lead to crashes, violence, and deep regret. No matter how right you feel, staying calm is always the smarter option.
The Psychology of Staying Calm
Avoiding road rage takes emotional intelligence. It is about choosing to respond instead of react. When someone cuts you off or tailgates, your first instinct might be to retaliate. Instead, take a deep breath, stay in your lane, and let them go. It is not about weakness: it is about strength, control and prioritising your safety. Imagine how many lives could be saved if we all decided not to take things personally on the road.
Practical Tips for Keeping Your Cool
Do not engage.
If someone drives aggressively, do not react with gestures, flashing lights or hooting. Assume they are having a bad day or maybe rushing for an emergency.
Give them space.
If a driver is tailgating, move over safely and let them pass. Do not slam the brakes or block them.
Avoid the fast lane.
If you are driving at a relaxed pace, stick to the left. Allow faster cars to pass without
frustration.
Take a break.
If someone is following you or driving recklessly around you, pull over or take the next safe exit. It is better to arrive late than not at all.
Stay alert.
Defensive driving means staying focused and anticipating poor behaviour from others. Keep both hands on the wheel and avoid distractions.
Managing fatigue and staying focused.
Tired or emotional drivers are more likely to snap. Make sure you are well-rested before a long drive. Avoid driving under the influence of alcohol, drugs, or even strong medication. Your judgment and reaction time depend on it.
Final Thoughts
Aggressive drivers are a reality on our roads, but you do not have to become one of
them. Regulate your emotions, remain focused and remember that your goal is to arrive safely, not to win a battle with a stranger. In South Africa, where tempers can flare and traffic conditions are unpredictable, the calmest driver is often the safest. Choose peace. Choose control. Choose to drive on.
